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Are you a leader of a team or community that is struggling to make a decision? Are you a part of a group challenged to find a path forward? Are you someone searching for ways to understand yourself and another during a conflict? 

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Land Acknowledgement

Acknowledging, with gratitude and in the spirit of reconciliation, that we are living, working and playing in the land of the Treaty 7 People, the Blackfoot Confederacy of the Piikani, Siksika, Kainai and Blackfeet Nation and the Stoney Nakoda Nations - comprised of the Bearspaw, Goodstoney, and Chiniki First Nations and the Tsuut’ina Nation. We also acknowledge the people of the Métis Nation of Alberta Regions 5 and 6. We are all treaty people.  We give thanks to the people who came before us and for all who continue to keep this land for future generations.

Redefining Conflict: A Path to Transformation

 

One of the things that always bugged me about conflict resolution was feeling like I had to compromise myself just to reach agreement. I
wasn’t being true to what really mattered to me. And I wasn’t just
compromising for the other person, I was also trying to ease the
discomfort of everyone around me. In the end, I was losing myself to
make everyone else feel okay.


I struggled with that for a long time. But where I’ve landed now—and
what I truly believe is that it’s not about conflict resolution. It’s about
conflict transformation.


So what is conflict transformation? How do we actually transform
conflict?


It comes from transformative mediation theory, which redefines
conflict itself. Instead of just seeing it as a disagreement between two
opposing sides, it frames conflict as a crisis in human interaction.


We’re not interacting well. I feel anxious, unclear, maybe even afraid.
I might feel shocked by the other person’s behavior. I don’t trust
them. I’m suspicious.

 

That’s the crisis. The interaction itself is broken.


So how do we shift that? How do we move toward strength, clarity,
calmness and maybe even empathy for the other person?


We start by remembering that we’re human. We bring our whole
selves into conflict, including things we don’t even realize learned
behaviors, old patterns, identity, trauma. So much of what shows up
in conflict has nothing to do with the actual issue.


For example, if your dad used to walk away whenever you brought up
a tough issue, and now, decades later, your partner does the same
thing you’re not just reacting to this moment.

 

You’re reacting to your past. And that baggage gets in the way of actually seeing and hearing the person in front of you.

So transformation begins by unpacking that baggage. Becoming
aware. Reflecting.  Asking: Is this how I want to respond? Is this how I want to show up?

 

The more self-aware and present we are, the more we can stay
grounded in the interaction, rather than just reacting.

 

And that’s when something really powerful happens. You move from trying to keep the peace by compromising yourself to being in a meaningful exchange where you’re honoring what’s true for you and seeing the other person in a different light.


That’s gold. And you’ve all experienced moments like that. So you
know it’s possible.

 

Youtube video
Shifting from Conflict Resolution to Conflict Transformation
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cSVhWhcinyM

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